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Motivational Thoughts » Articles » Self Improvement How Do I Know I Have Low Self-Esteem
by SP, Woodring If you are overly sensitive to criticism but overly critical of others, you have low self-esteem. If you habitually put others down, you have low self-esteem. If you constantly focus on the past: “Oh… The good old days!, you, my friend, you have low self-esteem. If you constantly make negative "I am" statements, if you always put yourself down, you have low self-esteem. If you fear new experiences and changes, I you scream and kick yourself because you want everything to remain the way they are, you have low self-esteem. If you have trouble trusting other people, if you automatically trust other people because of their nationality or the fact that their skin color is one shade lighter than yours, you have low self-esteem. If you think you need a boob job, liposuction, if you look at yourself in the mirror and you think your nose is too big, your ass is too flat, or any part of your body is anything but perfect simply because it’s yours and yours alone, you have low self-esteem If you constantly brag about “my car”, “my house”, “my jewelry”, “my big screen TV”, my... my… my…, you have low self-esteem. If always want to hear how pretty you are, if you always want others to tell you “how wonderfully dressed you are today”, if your day is ruined simply because you didn’t hear it today, you have low self-esteem. If you run around shopping for no reason, and if the first thing you do after you buy it is to get on the phone and tell the whole world what you just bought and how much it cost, you have low self-esteem. If you have a very hard time look at someone in the eye when you are talking to them, you have low self-esteem. If you put your head down when you are talking to another human being, I don’t care if it’s Rene Garcia Preval, Georges W. Bush, the queen or England, or the Pope, you have low self-esteem. If you have a strong need for material possessions, if having the most expensive thing in your neighborhood is what makes you feel secure, you have low self-esteem. If you are constantly accusing your spouse of cheating without any proof or evidence, if the only thing in your mind is worrying about what your spouse is doing when you are not around, you have low self-esteem. If you do not believe in yourself, if you think any other human being on the planet is better, you have low self-esteem. If you have a hard time expressing yourself, if have a great idea and you are too afraid to share it with others, you have low self-esteem. If you have a low level of self-awareness, if you spend all your time and all your energy trying to maintain a false image, you have low self-esteem. If you spend all your life and all your money trying to keep up with the Jones, you have low self-esteem. If you are upset after you read this, that’s good. I just made you realize something about you that your family and friends do not have to guts to tell you. You have low self-esteem.
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Comments (34)
one thing i learned,people will do what ever they can to make you feel like you 10 inches tall. but it up to you to feel that way. like marriah carey said in her song you can say what ever you want to said, i will not let you take that away from me. so your self esteem belong to you, no one can take it onless you give it up, what i mean by give it up. may be expain by the french proverb " qui veut son respect se le procure" i you repect your self you have to hold your head up and hight no oen can make bow it onless you agreed with them .
wesner
hello sam i am;
i was please to see a response to my comment on self-esteem? not in this christian world. to attack the issue of self-esteem, we need to understand that people don't just decide to have low self-esteem. this is some thing that is deeply embedded in our thoughts. the self-esteem pattern is acquired trough experience with the world as a child. we grow-up believing what parents, teacher, pears, colleagues, religious figures and the media tell us. the same way we develop stereo types and labels of certain people.
i am afraid that religion is the number one authority utilized to justify the dictation of morality, superiority and decency, example; the three major religions governing the world today christianity, judaism and musluman.
just look at the killing, the hatred and destruction of humanity all with only one justification "to proclaim superiority imposed on the leaders by god"
in other words, clinging to superiority by posing inferiority on the other. the same way many of us fight low self-esteem by pointing out the differences of others and of course, pressing this entitlement or worthiness from god. thus, implying to those less fortunate are not worthy of the grace of god, therefore labeled inferior. with this point of view materialism arises.
in this christian world we find our self keeping up with the jones to proof that we are worthy of the grace of god.
ask those that commit suicide how low and unworthy they felt as a christian before the thought of suicide?
interesting...i see how one would feel about themselves...and still feel they are low...they just need a life that's what
interesting...i see how one would feel about themselves...and still feel they are low...they just need a life that's what
hi nadine,
i read your comment about self esteem and i wanted to comment on it.
we leave in a world where many people get supper rich by telling us what is cool, what kind of car to drive to be cool, what clothes to wear to be cool, what size once has to be to be pretty, what, what, what...
it is a big ad campaign!
and we fall prey to it. very few people are not influences by advertising, they do not realise that all your live someone is telling you what to do, what to buy, what to wear, where to live.
and those who do not, i guess, seem to have a higher level of self esteem because they become a part of the other group, the trend setters, if you will allow the expression.
i am me, i love me, i don't care what the world thinks.
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